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The psychology of fertility

The psychology of fertility: sessions for people that consider having a child.


We focus on motherhood, when the female psychology is at a critical stage.


No woman should feel excluded!


What exactly is the desire to have a child? Where does it come from and how is it expressed?

Does the maternal instinct exist? If yes, how is it expressed? What about men? What makes them want to have a child?

The couple and the desire to have a child: What is necessary in a relationship in order for a child to be born?

How does the couple manage the process of assisted reproductive technology?

What does a miscarriage or abortion mean to the couple?

How does it feel to expect something that is not coming? How can I manage the feelings of guilt (for what I do and what I don’t)? How does the couple stay united and take care of each other?

What kind of mother do I want to be? How do my personal emotional difficulties affect motherhood for me?

How does my relationship with my mother affect motherhood for me?

Can I choose not to have children?


Irois offers a series of sessions with Despoina Gravvani (psychologist-psychotherapist, specialising in female psychology) that aim to give answers to the above-mentioned questions. Also, in these sessions controversial topics will be analysed and discussed that women find difficult to talk about in our days, either due to fear or shame and social opression.


These sessions are for women and men that have imagined or are considering having a child and those that are going through assisted conception procedures.


We will examine the process of conception and fertilisation in general, in closed groups, through 3 experiential sessions. We advise you to attend the sessions in the following order:



The desire to have a child very often comes in terms of a relationship.

What happens when one of the partners is not sure or does not have this desire? How can partners talk about this difficult, but significant issue?

Why is the process of assisted reproductive technology often a procedure that moves partners away from each other?

Why is it wrong for partners not to discuss the difficulties and contradictory feelings that they experience? What can they do instead of remaining silent and how can they maintain a healthy, sexual and loving relationship?

What are the social factors that influence the women’s and men’s perceptions regarding conception, motherhood and fatherhood?

Does assisted reproductive technology make someone less of a woman or man? We will talk about preconceptions and taboos.



What I really want is so unfamiliar.

In this session, which is very special, we will discuss the difficulties, the fears, the thoughts and concerns, the hopes and expectations that a woman might have when wanting to have a child. We will examine the psychological and emotional state in which a woman is before conception, during assisted reproductive technology and will offer the space and time for her to express any worries without being judgmental, since we know so well how mixed her feelings might be at that point.

We will analyse what exactly the desire to have a child is, whether it is an instinct or comes in a relationship. We will examine how age, professional aspirations and personal experiences affect the perception of pregnancy and how any obstacles can be overcome. We will challenge any preconceptions that restrict and put pressure on the woman´s wishes. We will talk about the importance of communication between partners, we will try to support and reassure women that try to get pregnant through assisted reproductive technology and we will discuss the new models of parenthood and family.



While trying to have a child, the couple might sometimes be scared, stressed or have negative thoughts. Nowadays, most of these people hear and read many things. Why is it that they don´t feel reassured? Why does all this knowledge and information affect them in a negative way?

In the period of conception many things can go wrong and lead to “failure”. How does a woman and a man deal with this? How does the identification of the problem affect their psychology? How do they need to manage any failure or possible miscarriages?

When does this process of trying to get pregnant start getting obsessive and what does this mean?

When do I have to know to let go?

In this session we will manage all these difficulties realistically, with care, honesty and respect.

e-seminarse-seminars: You can attend the seminar via Skype

You can reach IROIS from anywhere you are! This is a new service, through which you can participate in any course you are interested in, whenever it personally suits you. Individual sessions are scheduled that cover the topics of the current seminars and classes. Just let us know in which of these you are interested and we will arrange the date and time. You will need to transfer the participation fee to our bank account beforehand and you are ready!

The sessions are led by
Despoina Gravvani (psychologist-psychotherapist, specialising in female psychology)
Every Wednesday, from 14th of November 2018
Participation fee
20€/person, 30€/couple /session
IROIS, Αlexioupoleos 1 & Leoforos Vouliagmenis, Argyroupoli, Athens 16452
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